Here we go again

[fish]

G is home.

Now the debate about how care is to be provided.

I think that it is clear to NC that she is not physically able to provide the care her mother needs with the requisite degree of mutual safety.

It is pretty obvious, objectively.

But it is difficult for family to think straight in the circumstances.

Although why it is hard to understand that professional nursing is required is beyond me.

Perhaps it is the money, but T doesn't even know if and for how much financial aid G is eligible to receive, and we would help in any case.

I am treading very softly.

It is not my mother, after all.


Now NC is a-bed with a thermometer confirmed fever.

[Smoke]

Taking care of the Caregiver is the hardest part. I didn't know how tired I was until after my Mom passed. I hope NC gets to feeling better soon.

For me it was a no brainer, My Mom always said to me she never wanted to go to a home. With the help of my Dad we were able to keep my Mom safe and comfortable.

If it would have been just me or just him I doubt we could have done that.

You need outside help, aid, nurse, family.

If she can't be cared for safely then a home is the next option...a sad on imo. But there are good ones that would suit her needs, ya have to look around.

I feel for ya Fish & NC...when the time comes I already told my Dad you better go down hard and not get up.

Keep us posted.

[Pam]

I think sometimes it's just hard to come to grips with the fact that our parents are old...and need help. I know I still see mine as young and active and clearly they are not.

Taking care of the caregiver is important but I think it seems in most cases it's not practical, especially when your are the only one caring for someone.

Wise decision to try to let them decide fish. Glad that both of them are working together though.

My dad keeps insisting that if the time comes that my mom can't do everything that needs to b done (which is almost upon us) when I'm not there he will do it. Well if that is the case WHY isn't he doing it now or at least helping.

Tough time of life for all involved.